On August 20, 2011 Kim Kardashian and NBA player Kris Humphries of the New Jersey Nets were married in a lavish ceremony in Montecito, California.
Women’s History Fact: On November 14, 1889, Nellie Bly began her journey around the world; in an attempt to recreate the fictional novel Around the World in Eighty Days . Seventy-two days, six hours, eleven minutes and fourteen seconds later Bly was back in New York.
On October 31, 2011 Kim Kardashian had filed for divorce.
Now I know that you are thinking, here we go another blogger joining the Kim bashing. Well, you would be wrong. See, I understand that sometimes people enter into relationships, even marriage, without really weighing just how serious of a commitment it is. I was a young woman when I got married, I know, now that I should have waited. I should have lived out some dreams and accomplished a few goals before; I decided to settle down into a different type of life. However, I told myself I had made a commitment and would stick it out especially, after I had my first child, I knew I had to. But, there was this unhappiness in me, and even as the years went by, I continued to tell myself that I just had to set my feelings aside because, I had two children. Not only that but, I worried about what people would say. Some of my family warned me from the beginning, I was making a mistake getting married when I did. I convinced myself I had to prove them wrong. And then there was the church where divorce is frowned upon.
Then, one day, I thought, what about me? What about what I wanted? What about my happiness? I decided from that moment on. I would always listen to my soul. I would not worry about what others thought or about pleasing anyone before considering my happiness. I learned that by doing those things it is a slow and painful way to kill one’s own spirit.
I asked my husband of ten years for a divorce. So, see I understand Kim.
We have to learn from our mistakes and grow from the lessons.
So, yes Kim fans, I really do understand, well, I almost understand, except for the part where this is her second time getting married. And the fact that she is not a 22yr old but, a 31yr old woman who is building a brand (like it or not-she and her sisters are a brand). This is not some startup brand but, a brand already worth millions.
Then, I read this:
“First and foremost, I married for love. I can’t believe I even have to defend this. I would not have spent so much time on something just for a TV show! We filmed Kourtney giving birth, Khloe getting married, break ups, make ups, our best moments and our worst moments. These were all real moments. That’s what makes us who we are. We share, we give, we love and we are open! I felt like I was on a fast roller coaster and couldn’t get off when now I know I probably should have, I got caught up with the hoopla and the filming of the TV show that when I probably should have ended my relationship, I didn’t know how to and didn’t want to disappoint a lot of people.”
I will ignore the contradiction between, “I would not have spent so much just for a TV Show” and “I got caught up in the hoopla of the TV Show.” Even though, being caught up in the hoopla is like saying, “I was drunk so, the alcohol made me do it” (oh wait, maybe it was that $400,000 worth of free Perrier-Jouët champagne for the wedding that made her do it).
Where am I going with this post? I love women who are chasing their dreams (I am talking about running after them like your heels are on fire). I try not to share in the gossip or hate talk about others, however, Kim Kardashian has over 10 million Twitter fans, which I am sure the majority of them are young girls and women. Whether, I (we) like it or not she is someone’s role model and she should understand this. . .
She is a young successful woman who is the constant focus of the media. A woman who can announce she filed for divorce and it will set Twitter hashtags ablaze. So, while women like these Noble prize winners are ignored on social networks, Kim Kardashian thrives.
I respect Kim’s hustle. I respect her drive. I respect her go-get it attitude.
Kim, how does a successful woman, who has been married before and does not care how she has risen to fame (sex tape, reality show); claim not to know how to end a relationship because she didn’t want to disappoint anyone?
Kim if you are going to speak to young women even, as a business role model then, you should know how to avoid being caught up in hoopla.
Because right now thanks to you Kim, millions of young women have learned that . . . for fame do anything. For money do anything. And for television ignore the fact that marriage is a serious commitment.
That is the real disappointment.
Share with your girlfriends!