A Long Overdue Introduction to Me

I am not sure if you ever noticed or not, at the top of the page, there is a page entitled, “Hello Stiletto”. There, I encourage women to send any question about heels, fashion, life, relationships, children, etc to that email address.
I must admit I have not answered the few I have received. That is, as of right this moment, going to change. I will begin answering questions beginning with this post. First, I wanted to address one I received recently, here in the editor’s thought section.

“What makes you qualified to give advice?” 

O_o *clutches heels at all the animosity in that question*




Actually, this is a fair question.

First, let me start with this tidbit, I am not medically licensed. Nor am I a psychologist. Nor am I a psychiatrist. I do not have any degree whatsoever. I have never taken one psychology class . . . oh wait, I did, once, but I cannot remember the teacher’s name let alone anything I read.
I digress

Nothing actually qualifies me to give anyone advice. Hey, if I had known or did know all of the answers I would not have made all the mistakes, I have made in my journey. I would have known how to achieve my dreams or goals sooner than I have or I would not have given up on others so soon. And if I had all the answers, I would not make any mistakes in the future (which I will).





HOWEVER, I am old enough and have lived through enough to share my opinion on anything and everything. So, if you want an honest opinion, I am willing to share one. And I am positive, that if I were to give the wrong opinion, the readers of Queen in Heels will share their thoughts.

I have never really shared myself with my readers, though when you met me you will learn I am an open book (well, open to an extent, I respect the privacy of those who surround me therefore; I try to speak freely without “talking” about others).





I have decided to share my story with my readers because; when I started this blog it was with the full intention of focusing on issues that affect women. I just happened to love high heels, also. I decided to bring the two together because really, we as women go through our journey in life in our shoes. For me, it has been high heels, dating, marriage, divorce, motherhood, sex, and business; while feeling my most confident, daring, and beautiful in them. This is a lifestyle blog. A blog about being woman. A blog from a woman who loves high heels. It is time to get focused back on all these things.

Where am I going with all of this?

I wanted to make the point that I am not perfect. I will try not to be preachy. I am not trying to judge. I am not trying to tell you how you should live. Far be it from me to do these things. I only want to share my experiences and lessons.





SO

“What makes me qualified to give advice?” 

I am is a woman who has experienced heartbreak, pain, loneliness, confusion and depression. Many times, I have experienced these emotions all at the same time; which has left me feeling hopeless and worthless.

I have misspent funds. Not known where I would get the money for bills, clothes, or food. I am a mother, of two, who does not always have the answers. I am sometimes irritable and many times moody. I am a human being who sometimes seems to concentrate on the hardships and all things I don’t have. I tend to overlook all the blessings in my life. All the reasons, I should wake up every morning and scream thank you to God at the top of my lungs. I am a woman who has been a victim, who has lost her way, who could see the beauty in herself, and who lost hope.

There are those mistakes I keep making along the way some of which I have learned from and others I still deeply regretted. And I am not alone. There are many women out there who are like me. Women who are not making mistakes but lessons learned. Sometimes, I have also come to realize that I had to make the same mistake numerous times in order to truly appreciate or understand the lesson.





I am a woman who is strong, a survivor, much wise, and independent. I have suffered abuse (physical and sexual). I was married (10 yrs.) then divorced and now I am single and dating. I am a sexual being who has been celibate. I am a cougar. I am a mother of a son and a daughter. I have a teenager. I have suffered miscarriages, twice. One, when I was six months pregnant with my daughter. I have struggled to pay rent and am now a homeowner, who struggles to maintain her home, haha. I have had long hair and now it is short. I have a dog. I have two parakeets (who I took in). I once had a guinea pig and two hamsters (they died a few years ago). I never want to own another farm again, even, if I do love animals. I do not smoke or drink, I never have. I like to travel even by myself. I once hated myself and now I love me beyond measure. Yes, I really am Lifetime on heels. My name is Sharon. I am 39 yrs. of age. I love to laugh. I love to talk. I love to share all I have learned.

p.s. to see an updated photo of me click here

You may also like -

You Got Email. . . Now AnswerHeel of the Week/Nicholas Kirkwood Metallic Patent Leather Pump

Queenly Advice: How to Run Your Blog as a Business